Wednesday, February 6, 2008

Time Release Blessing

Laura continues to heal from her surgery. Every day I can see the little signs: her voice is coming back and with it, so is her level of conversation; she gets up more frequently - at times our biggest job is encouraging her to stay still; she is paying close attention to her schedule; she laughs more freely with less wincing. Her strength is returning and she is doing admirably well pulling herself in and out of bed. I am discovering she must be quite an athlete.

Healing, we have found, comes with time release blessing. The flow of care from our church, our other friends, and our family keeps gracing her with encouragement and love. Prayers, still are lifted up and she can feel them; so can I. Food that comes through a formal ministry at church which coordinates menu and delivery keeps us well-fed and more able to focus our attention on Laura. Cards are overflowing a basket I set out to contain them; many have notes that lift her spirits.

Our daughter, Carrie, has been with us since Tuesday, bringing her work and well-wishes of a boss and client who encouraged her to work from Michigan for as long as she needed. (Thursday she drives back to Philly, but the afterglow of her smile and resonance of her laughter will continue to bless us). James provides his computer counsel and a steady flow of witty remarks. He coordinates his personal schedule to be certain someone is always here with his mom. His girlfriend, Sarah, gives her hugs.

Laura's parents were able to drive between snow storms to be with her for a while each day since Monday. On Wednesday, I needed to work for a few hours back at the church, and they stayed with her while I was away. They had wanted to be with her during surgery, but it is evident that they were here at the right time: a time that their love and touch would work the strongest for her.


Laura told me to write this: her legs had begun to swell, and we were concerned about it; so I left a message at Dr. Malviya's office. He was so kind to return my call later in the evening, advising me to purchase post-surgical support hose. I found a pair at the fourth store I visited and returned home with the prize. Support stockings are...snug. Following the directions on the box to the letter, I turned them inside-out and placed them on her feet, rolling and pulling each to fit over her legs. It is amazing how much abuse she was able to tolerate. I learned three things: 1) I am not a very adept nurse; 2) you should not treat a patient in the same manner as you might try to move rocks with two-by-fours; and 3) Laura has an amazing patience and capacity for forgiveness. The stockings turned out to be a big help.

Blessings: everywhere we turn. It's kind of like a capsule that works for hours in continuous, intermittent release. God puts so many of you in the right place at the right time to provide the right dose of the blessing she needs next. Thank you.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

From Susan Schnaidt, Church Secretary at Traverse Bay United Methodist Church --
Dear Laura, You don't know me and I know only of you since you were once part of this church, when it's name was Asbury UMC. But, this church has been following what you have been going through and there are so, so many here who are holding you in their prayers and hearts. Please KNOW this! This is the main reason for my writing to you.
Also, on a personal note, I battled cancer 13 years ago -- had surgery and went on to have chemo. What struck me, when I read one of your emails, was that the Bible verse that sustained you was Isaiah 43. That is the same one I came upon the night before my surgery 13 years ago, when I prayed to God for help to take away my fear and to help me accept what was ahead.
I pray for strength for you, fast healing, and most of all, peace. I know God's arms are surrounding you and your family. In God's Love, Sue Schnaidt

Anonymous said...

Dear John and Laura: I simply had to laugh at John's details of helping you with the surgical stockings! I want to assure John that husbands as nurses, although not ideal, definitely is a blessing that wives cherish. Oh yeah, and with practice, comes improvement. I am absolutely sure Laura appreciates all your special efforts and care!
You are in our daily prayers. Hugs, Judy and Curt

Anonymous said...

You are a good writer Laura.
Deanie McFarling

Anonymous said...

Laura and John, I just finished reading Trevor Hudson's, A Mile in
My Shoes" for the second time. This
time I read a paragraph or a short
section each time. I remember
clearly the times a number of us
had together with you in
the Journey last summer. I am deeply gratefull for what together
you added to my life.

Bob Mcfarling

Anonymous said...

Dear Laura and John,
You are in my prayers. I have another friend currently battling breast cancer. You are both strong and spirited. I know by Christmas you will be celebrating good health! All my love, Cousin Sandy Gibbs